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Seeing to the Heart

Posted by on Nov 19, 2014 in Essential Development | 0 comments

Some behavior in your children will seem “good” to you. Other behavior will seem unequivocally “bad.” Notice both in your children without being overly impressed by one nor overly dismayed by the other. In doing so, you will be imitating the Tao which sees our behavior as a mask and sees immediately beneath it to the good within our heart.   Above all, do not attack your child’s behavior and attempt to change it by endless talking and scolding.     Stay at your center and look beneath the behavior to the heart of the child. There you will only find good. When you see the heart you will know what to do.   William Martin, The Parents Tao Te Ching ———————————————————————————————————————————   Join us for a dialogue on “Ten Spiritual Principles of Discipline” with Frank Marrero   This FREE call will take place 11/20 at 8p PST. Get the PDF of “Ten Spiritual Principles of Discipline” here or simply sign up to have this call recording sent to your inbox after the call. Read more…

A Place to Rest

Posted by on Nov 15, 2014 in Practical Parenting | 1 comment

Boy, do we keep running! The DNA of western culture is laced with anxiety and keeps us in constant motion. Everywhere we look there are subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) messages that “we must never be satisfied with simply keeping up with the Jones'; we must surpass them!” The result is that our nervous systems rarely come to a state of rest and our bodies and minds suffer through a life of chronic stress.   Mommy’s stress is baby’s stress Ask yourself, “Is this the life you want for your children?” Here are a few of the physical ailments that are linked to chronic stress: Heart disease Sleep problems Digestive problems Muscle tension, pain, and headaches Depression Obesity Memory impairment Worsening of skin conditions, such as eczema “There is more to life than increasing its speed.” — Mohandas Gandhi And chronic stress affects our mood and behavior in the following ways: Anxiety Restlessness Inattention, lack of focus Irritability and aggression Sadness, depression, and lack of motivation Overeating or undereating Smoking, drug, and alcohol abuse   “We are the most in-debt, obese, addicted, and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history.” — Brene’ Brown Now it is unlikely that we can stop the momentum of an entire culture any time soon, so What can you do to save your kids from getting too stressed-out? The most important thing you can do is to help bring your child’s nervous system to states of rest as much as possible at home. What we are going […] Read more…

The Most Important Thing

Posted by on Nov 12, 2014 in Essential Development | 0 comments

Let me propose a radical idea: the most important thing in parenting is helping our children stay in contact with their source.   “The wise remain aware of the spirituality of life. Every mother has felt the stillness and the stir of Eternal Consciousness in her womb. Remember that. Bring that mysterious, silent moment into the clamoring present.” Vimala McClure, The Tao of Motherhood   More and more, my observations of human development — and what disrupts easeful development — lead me to this single conclusion: nothing is more important than contact with our source — with the ground of our Being. It is contact with this presence that matters most. In this contact lies our growth, our gifts, and our fulfillment. Growth When we lose contact with our ground, fear arises. Fear begins to create demons where there are none, cause trouble where there could be ease. This leads to a looping of frustration, anxiety, and eventually defendedness. Without presence we are vulnerable and must protect ourselves. As our heart hardens, energy for growth becomes bound up in self-protection resulting in stunted growth. Gifts Some people believe that children can be motivated and become more productive through fear, anxiety, and feelings of inferiority. They are right, but the motivation is constant, leaving no room for rest and a sense of satisfaction. Fear also uncouples our actions from the reality in front of us; we continually are playing out old dramas. In this way, loss of presence spoils ones true […] Read more…